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Have you seen the
Happiness U-Curve?

​It ain’t pretty for us
early midlifers.

We have more economic and social power than ever...but our satisfaction's at an all-time low.​

Have you ever wondered why?

Because there is an explanation…


...and it’s not because something's wrong.​



As 35-55-year-olds, we're likely caught in a web of:


Frustration about change...both the kind that's happening (collagen) and the kind that's not (career);


Fear about regret and uncertainty (Is there more to look back on than forward to?); and


Feeling overwhelmed by responsibility (Kids, parents, money...oh my!).


It's all slowly eroding our satisfaction...


and something's gotta give.

Do you wonder,
"Is this all there is?"


But also think this business of having it all seems like an impossible standard?


I feel you. And I have good news:


You. Don't. Have. To. Participate.


I had early midlife ennui coupled with the "Wait, that's impossible...and I just feel like crap striving for it!" light bulb moment about having it all:


We can't achieve our way out of self-criticism to more satisfaction.


Big Ol' Buts:
Got barriers to more satisfaction?


For decades, we've been taught to think in ways that diminish and devalue us...


all while aspiring to "have it all."


We see people claiming, "You just need the right mindset." Uhhhh...okay. But how?


It's such an abstract idea if no one’s ever guided us through how to do it. There are roadblocks galore:

  • Berating ourselves for mistakes;

  • Chastising ourselves for not doing the things we think we “should” do;

  • Fighting with unwanted thoughts;

  • Wrestling with traumatic memories;

  • Getting irritated by bodily aches and pains.

We think these thoughts, and they seem like they’re our thoughts.


But they aren’t. They're outside messages we've internalized and don’t know how to recognize or change. All the effortall the achievingin the world isn’t going to change that. And what happens?

  • We play small and don’t live our dreams because "What if I fail?" and "What will people think?"
  • We dislike our bodies, which just want to support us.
  • We stay in relationships that don't serve us.
  • We care more about what others think than what we think...especially of ourselves.

By the time we reach 35-55, we've spent decades denying our authentic selves and desires again and again...all to win some prize that never comes.

And when we’re dissatisfied, what do we do to feel better?

We spend money and time on stuff that doesn’t help us actually feel satisfied in the long run.


True story: I love a good Athleta splurge as much as anyone. But some new athleisure wear isn’t going to solve my satisfaction problem when that problem is caused by my thought that I’m not fit enough to be rockin' this gear.


Right? Right.

That’s why investing in mastering my middlescence has been my best investment...ever.



The Middlescence

A four-week self-coaching party
to start living life on your terms

Insight that demystifies midlife challenges

Personal inquiry that digs deep

Science-backed liberation that helps you grow

Liberate yourself from the inside out.


Here's what it looks like...

  • Being super satisfied with yourself, regardless of what your boss or family or friends think. (That's their business.)
  • Feeling proud as a working parent because you're doing an amazing job and can be more present for all parts of your life. (Give guilt the boot.)
  • Feeling secure and honoring your worth, regardless of whether that Bumble date ghosted you. (Thank you, next.)
  • Embracing your colorful self...because having an opinion, embracing the full spectrum of emotions, and living life on your terms are all wonderful qualities.


Here's how...


MODULE 1: Exploring My Middlescence

While the prevalence of midlife crises is exaggerated, the 40s funk is real (remember that darn Happiness U-Curve). Explore the unique challenges of middlescence (a.k.a., “the puberty of adulthood”), cut through common midlife myths, and get clear about what really plagues you.



MODULE 2: Embracing My "Self”

After decades on the self-improvement hamster wheel, liberate yourself through the science and skills of self-acceptance. Befriend your inner critic, identify the symptoms and consequences of your conditional self-worth, and create a more accepting stance toward yourself (that often serves as a catalyst for lasting change).



MODULE 3: Coaching Myself

Most of us ignore what’s going on in our mind and lack the tools to use it purposefully. Identify and understand the thoughts and emotions that compromise and/or create your results, and learn a cognitive science-based system for processing them (and coaching yourself) to create more life satisfaction.



MODULE 4: Reclaiming My Life

As part of the "Is this all there is?" ennui, we all have stories that keep us stuck in a cycle of fear, frustration, and feeling overwhelmed. Learn how to rewrite your past and reprogram your brain to feel completely different about where you’ve been, where you are today, AND where you’re going.

Create a better relationship

with yourself.


Struggling with "Is this all there is?" If so, it’s tough to love yourself, be present for others, or Make. Positive. Changes. In. Your. Life.


I can help you with all of it.


The Middlescence Masterclass is a cognitive science-based process with tools for you to feel satisfied, regardless of circumstance.


Heads up: It's not about "fixing" anything.


When you can be with and move past difficult thoughts and feelings, you're standing on a powerful foundation for making lasting change.

I know this 'cuz I lived it.


Eventually, in my quest to feel better amid a flurry of bullsh*t (and to “fix” myself because I still thought I needed fixing), I sought coaching.


It was powerful. So powerful I then got certified as a coach.


The tools I learned to shift my thought patterns, and feel and release my emotions transformed me during a time of major upheaval (some might call it a midlife crisis...not me).


As I started to help other 30- and 40-somethings, I clearly saw alarming consistencies among the challenges of my clients. Contrary to being unique or random, they were the product of decades of messages and socialization that've prescribed how to think about ourselves.


No matter how many degrees or promotions earned...


No matter how many material possessions acquired...


No matter how many relationships solidified...


We're not taught how to think a thought purposefully to help create the satisfaction we seek.


And by early midlife, we're starting to notice what's missing...but we're lacking the resources to properly address it.


We ALL need concrete, effective help getting negative messages out of our minds for good to create new levels of self-acceptance, courage, joy, and satisfaction. The kind we'd always imagined was possible for others…but not for us.


But knowing intellectually about all this stuff doesn’t translate into satisfaction.


The Middlescence Masterclass


A 4-week self-coaching training to develop the knowledge, mindset, and skills to create lasting, unconditional life satisfaction



Because the world is always coming at you with new challenges.


But now you can have the tools to handle whatever comes your way.

Anytime. Anywhere. For anything.


You can solve your frustration/fear/feeling overwhelmed once and for all for a fraction of what you’d spend on retreats and workshops during the span of your life.


The best part? This stuff is science-backed to work.

If you're here, you already know you're interested.


That said, The Middlescence Masterclass is for you if you're:

  • Your own harshest critic;
  • Stuck in unwanted or difficult thoughts and feelings;
  • Thinking your life's a "problem" to be solved;
  • Done living life on someone else's terms; or
  • Wondering if this is as good as life gets.

Join today.

Insight that demystifies midlife challenges.

Personal inquiry that digs deep.

Science-backed liberation that helps you grow.


During The Middlescence Masterclass, you’ll start noticing that you feel more chill.

  • You're kinder toward yourself.
  • Your emotions aren’t a rollercoaster ride.
  • You're more courageous with acting on your abilities.
  • You’re spending less time feeling badly during Instagram comparisonitis and more time gaining clarity about the power of managing your mind.


After The Middlescence Masterclass, you’ll realize it’s been a while since you were flogging yourself.

  • You're less judgmental toward everyone...including yourself.
  • You're more composed when something unexpected happens, because you can handle it.
  • You see your reflection in the mirror and surprise yourself by thinking, “I look good!”


After another month of putting the skills of The Middlescence Masterclass to practice, you're consistently coaching yourself.

  • You’re naturally thinking more helpful thoughts...and when you look back at your thoughts from month 1, you don't even recognize some of them.
  • You show up in your career as the rockstar you always knew you could be.
  • You're the magnetic, loving, courageous person you've always wanted to be.
  • Most importantly, you’re excited for the future because you're proud of the work you’ve already done and you're ready to live what matters most to you.

What's included?


Weekly Teaching Sesh


Each module features a series of pre-recorded lessons I post weekly, for you to access at any time. These include insights created just for this group that'll have you wondering, "How did I get up every morning without knowing this before?"



Live Coaching


I offer weekly live coaching (hot-seat style). You’ll have the chance to submit your questions in advance. I’ll help you answer them, and may use them to springboard into surprise teaching nuggets, too. I often do.





The workbook's more fun cousin, this playbook is full of prompts for our time together, as well as science-backed tools and exercises to reinforce what you're learning.



The Bullshift Self-Coaching Model


 The Bullshift Self-Coaching Model is a cognitive science-based tool you'll learn during the program that helps you change your thoughts about yourself and the world on purpose, to create the feelings, actions, and results you want in your life.





 Connect with your fellow early midlifers and stay on top of announcements. Sometimes, it's easier to remember and keep engaged in something when it pops up on Facebook...since you're in there all the time, even though you said you wouldn't be this year. #nojudgment



Lifetime Access


And after that? The sky's the limit. And the one thing you know for sure is that The Middlescence Masterclass will ground you in the skills you need to live what matters most...on your terms.

Guess what?
There’s more.


Not only do you get all of the incredible teaching, coaching, and tools that will become indispensable to your more satisfying 40s, you also get these bonus resources:


A 30-Minute 1:1 Coaching Sesh

This is a one-time individual coaching session with me to help you solidify what you've learned, transform your new-found satisfaction into a clear vision for yourself, and leave you feeling renewed and inspired for your life.



Unfunk Your Mind Audio Training

Think of my Unfunk Your Mind audio training as your "on-the-go" guide to applying what you've learned in this program through
a simple but powerful four-step practice.



Guided Meditations

Enjoy a collection of guided meditations that help you reprogram your brain for greater self-acceptance and satisfaction in the face of myriad middlescence challenges.


Tapping Scripts

Enjoy 19 Tapping (“EFT”) Meditation scripts that target your greatest areas of need during middlescence: reduce tension, enhance sleep, manage stress, boost energy, address symptoms associated with anxiety and focus, and more.



Recommended Reading List

I'm sharing my recommended reading list, full of important and helpful resources to support your middlescence.

I see you,
midlife superstar.

How much is not joining costing you?


Do you throat punch yourself for feeling frustrated?


Are you spending too much energy fearing the unknowns?


Do you feel overwhelmed by all the things?


We all have core caring for and connecting with loved ones, learning and growing, and engaging in fun and nourishing activities.


Often what gets in the way of us pursuing these core values are unwanted or difficult thoughts, feelings, memories, and bodily sensations.


These are the hidden costs no one tells us about. We're paying the personal, emotional, and social tax when we don't learn a new way to think about and for ourselves.

I've got answers.

What happens when I join?

You'll get one email from me right away. The program starts Monday, Oct. 7th. Leading up to it, you'll receive reminders for when the program goes live. Starting October 7th, we'll connect weekly (lessons, coaching, tools, and more!) for an intensive and powerful month.


Can I have an in-depth conversation or 1:1 coaching with you?

The Middlescence Masterclass is a great option if you face persistent personal challenges. This program is foundational to a 1:1 relationship with even get a 30-minute solo session with me during this experience. If you're interested in becoming a private coaching client right away, I require an application. Email hello (at) to learn more about becoming a private client.


What if I want to cancel?

You can cancel within 14 days by sending an email to hello (at) to request your refund.


Does this work?

Yes, it works when you set aside time several times a week to develop your skills in mastering your middlescence.


Other questions?

Email hello (at) and I'll get back to you sharpish.

But life's already “full and rich.”
(said with a hint of distress)


The reason you’re frustrated about change isn’t actually your collagen (or lack thereof) or career.

The reason you fear regret and uncertainty isn’t actually grounded in reality.

The reason you’re feeling overwhelmed isn’t actually your job, your kids, your friends, or your hobbies.

It’s your mind.


When you don’t know how to create and honor boundaries...


When you’re constantly worried what others think...


When you take on things out of guilt or obligation or appearances... know what happens?


You're frustrated, fearful, and feeling overwhelmed.
All. The. Time. (claps in between for emphasis).


And you're still wondering, "Is this all there is?"

The answer: "No...there's The Middlescence Masterclass."


When you manage your mind, you'll always have plenty of courage to do what you want to do...and to discard the junk.'s time to get started on your more satisfying lifetogether.

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